Closing
the Gap Part I - How
to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be
by bernie schmidt
From
where you stand in your life right now, it's possible
that your dream might seem to be a tiny light perched
on the edge of a very tall dark cliff, with no means
of climbing the rock face - the gap between where
you are and where you want to be can seem very large
and intimidating.
Many
look at the gap and turn away. There are others
(like you!) who look at the gap and say, "There
must be a way". Now it becomes an exercise
of "how" instead of "can't".
Closing the Gap becomes your personal journey.
Closing
the Gap boils down to how you manage your habits.
Habits fall into two, interconnected, main categories,
internal and external:
-
Internal Dialogue - the thoughts you think, over
and over again
- External
Behaviour - what you do on a daily basis.
Listen
to your inner voice for a moment - you talk to yourself
all day long. What are you telling yourself, over
and over and over? Thoughts are like threads - think
the same one enough times and it becomes a rope.
Continuous repetition will turn it into a chain.
In
fact, studies have shown our minds are so busy we
think 50,000 thoughts a day and 95% of them are
the same thoughts we had yesterday and all previous
days!
If
you think negative thoughts about yourself ("I
don't deserve this" or "Others get what
they want, but not me") and keep doing what
you do, how can things change for the better?
They
can't, and they won't.
There's
a saying that every journey begins with a single
step. Sometimes the first step is a journey in itself!
And for many of us, the first step is examining
how we think of ourselves and how our thinking might
be holding us back.
Exercise-
Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle.
On the left hand side, make a list of negative attitudes
and images you have of yourself. On the right side,
recast each one into a more positive sentence.
Example:
Old
Thoughts
I'm
too busy to start anything new.
I
don't know how to start a business.
|
New
Thoughts
I
can learn to make time for what's important
to me
I
can learn how to start a business. |
Next
Issue: Closing the Gap Part
II - Habits around time and money. |